How to Pay for a Wedding: 8 Ways to Fund Your Big Day
A wedding day is typically a celebration you’ve dreamed of and eagerly anticipated, but it can also be a major expense. If you’re wondering if you should finance your wedding, here is some guidance when it comes to making that decision. From payment plans to personal loans and everything in between, options abound for making your big day happen.
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Key Points
• Median wedding cost is around $10,000, varying by venue, guest count, and location.
• To pay for a wedding, start by creating a detailed budget and exploring cost-saving measures.
• Financing options include personal savings, family contributions, personal loans, cash registries, vendor payment plans, and credit cards.
• Save by DIY-ing elements, choosing off-peak seasons, and leveraging friends and family.
• Combine payment methods to optimize costs and avoid high-interest debt.
Understanding Wedding Costs Before Making a Plan
SoFi’s most recent survey found that the median cost of a wedding is $10,000, and when you look at average costs, you may see figures like the $36,000 price tag shared by Zola, a wedding registry site. Of course, prices can vary tremendously depending on what you plan: A destination wedding or one held in a big city with 300-plus guests will likely be a much bigger expense than having 50 of your nearest and dearest gather in your grandmother’s beautiful backyard flower garden.
Breaking Down Wedding Expenses by Category
Here’s a look at some of the key contributors to the cost of a wedding, according to The Knot, a wedding site:
• 27%: Venue and rentals
• 24%: Catering, cake, and drinks
• 10%: Photography and video
• 9%: Floral and decor
• 8%: Music
• 6%: Clothing and beauty
• 5%: Wedding rings
• 4%: Wedding planner
• 3%: Guest entertainment
• 2%: Transportation
• 1%: Stationery
• 1%: Officiant
Setting a Realistic Budget
To set a realistic budget, it’s wise to delve into some real-world prices and see what’s affordable given your financial situation. You may find that swapping out a swanky hotel ballroom for local, loft-style event space can help you save money, or limiting the guest list to 75 people instead of 175 can be a route to having an affordable wedding of your dreams.
Developing a spreadsheet that lists out your total budget and how much you will spend on each category is a helpful exercise. Also consider what you might be able to borrow or what friends and family can help with (perhaps they can handle flowers and decor).
An online wedding cost calculator can help you set a realistic budget for your wedding, too.
8 Ways to Pay for Your Wedding
There are many variables that can affect the average cost of a wedding, including the time of year you say “I do,” the day of the week, the number of guests, the reception venue, and a host of other factors (such as unexpected wedding expenses).
Whatever your budget may be, here are some ways to fund your big day.
1. Personal Savings
Perhaps you have already saved up a nice bundle of cash that you can put toward your wedding. Or maybe you have just gotten engaged and have a year or two to save up enough money for your wedding. Using this kind of money to finance your wedding helps you avoid interest charges. Keep the cash in a high-yield savings account to help it grow via the power of compound interest.
2. Wedding-Specific Savings Plan
You can also set up a wedding-specific savings plan. This means you have a dedicated amount into which you will regularly deposit a sum of money or use recurring automated transfers to stockpile cash in it. This can help you save enough money for your ceremony and celebration.
3. Family Contributions
Depending on your family situation, your parents and other relatives may be able to pay for some or all of your wedding expenses. It used to be common for the bride’s parents to pay for the wedding, but today, it’s often a matter of the family making a contribution toward the total cost, if at all.
4. Personal Loans
Personal loans are typically unsecured loans that can be used for almost any purpose. The interest rate charged can be lower than those of credit cards, and they offer a lump sum of cash (usually between $1,000 and $50,000 or even $100,000) that is then repaid in installments over a few or several years.
Some lenders specifically offer wedding loans, tailored to the needs of couples planning their big day.
5. Credit Cards
A convenient way to finance wedding costs can be breaking out your plastic. While this is a quick and easy way to pay vendors, be sure you are aware of and can afford this kind of high-interest debt. Also stay aware of your credit limit. Financial experts advise that having a balance that is more than 30% of your credit limit can negatively impact your credit score.
6. Wedding Funds or Registries
You can crowd-source money for your “I do” day by opening a wedding fund. Usually, the couple lets people know that they would prefer to receive cash vs. physical gifts from guests by directing invitees to a cash registry. This money can then be used to pay for wedding costs.
7. Side Hustles and Extra Income
Not everyone has the time or energy for a side hustle, but working a part-time gig can help you pump up your savings for your wedding. Whether that means selling your service as a pet photographer or driving a rideshare every other weekend, these pursuits can help you bring in extra cash to pay for a wedding.
You might also sell stuff you no longer want or need to bring in some additional money.
8. Vendor Payment Plans
You may find that some vendors, such as your event space or caterer, offer payment plans, allowing you to put money toward your debt over time. Check the details carefully to be sure that the interest rate and fees are fully understood and affordable.
The Pros of Financing a Wedding
Here are some of the upsides of financing a wedding:
• You get your day with all the bells and whistles that you’ve dreamed of. You have the wiggle room to have more guests, a highly sought-after DJ or band, and food that will still be talked about on your anniversary. Mission accomplished in having a special day that will last a lifetime of memories, even if you don’t have all the cash waiting in the bank.
• You might be able to borrow enough money to have a relaxing honeymoon, too, which might be nice after the stress of wedding planning.
• You won’t deplete your savings to pay for your wedding. Starting your life together without an emergency savings account can be stressful.
The Cons of Financing a Wedding
Next, here are the downsides of financing a wedding:
• When the wedding is long over, that monthly loan payment is still owed. Depending on the amount and term of the loan, that can be a big commitment.
• Interest rates for loans and lines of credit typically vary based on the borrower’s credit rating and other factors. If you don’t qualify for favorable interest rates, you could end up paying a decent amount in interest over the life of the loan.
• Taking out a loan also increases your debt-to-income (DTI) ratio. If you are planning on near-future large purchases that will require another loan, like a mortgage, having a high DTI ratio might make it more difficult to qualify for future loans, or might affect the rates you qualify for.
Creating Your Wedding Payment Strategy
Paying for wedding expenses can require a significant amount of cash, so it can be wise to be strategic about how you’ll pay your bills. Here are a couple of ideas:
Mixing Different Payment Methods
You don’t have to go all in on just one payment plan. For instance, if your caterer offers a super-low interest rate on their payment plan, you might want to sign up for that, and then use a personal loan to pay for other expenses, such as the wedding dress, rings, music, and photography.
As with any kind of loan or line of credit, but sure you understand the fees and interest rate (and whether, say, prepayment penalties are applicable). Either a lower interest rate or a shorter term may save money in the long run. A personal loan calculator or amortization table can help with this analysis, so you know exactly how much you are spending.
Timeline Considerations
Another important consideration when deciding on financing is how long of a run-up you have to the wedding itself. If you are planning on getting married in, say, two years, you could have a good amount of time to budget and save.
If, however, you are planning on a short engagement, then financing your wedding or asking for cash gifts might better suit your timeline.
Recommended: A Guide to Unsecured Personal Loans
Tips for Reducing Wedding Costs
If you’re having second thoughts about the cost of your wedding and how to afford it, know that with wedding planning, there’s usually a way to reduce expenses.
Off-Season and Weekday Discounts
The high season for weddings is usually late spring through fall. That’s when demand and prices are highest. You may be able to save big by booking a winter wedding or early spring one.
Similarly, you’ll find that costs tend to peak for weekend weddings. If you can swing, say, a Thursday night instead of a Saturday, you could save a significant amount.
DIY Elements
Think about how you could save money by DIY-ing some aspects of your wedding vs. paying a professional. Also, you might tap friends and family to contribute. For instance, if you have a friend who loves to bake, perhaps they would make your cake. Or if you have a friend with a flair for photography, they could shoot your pictures as a gift to you and your partner. If you have a cousin who’s in a band, they might play at your wedding for free or a reduced rate. Perhaps your family members would be happy to create centerpieces and bouquets from affordably sourced flowers. Think freely, and call in those favors!
Any of these ideas will help you save money and avoid financing your wedding’s full cost.
Prioritizing What Matters Most
There’s no law that you have to have a traditional wedding. If what matters most to you is having a wedding that involves dancing till dawn, or having 200 friends and family members with you as you say your vows, go ahead, but then perhaps do a potluck meal so you don’t have to shell out for a huge catering bill, too.
If you’re a foodie, maybe your wedding celebration could be a small dinner in a private room at your favorite restaurant after the ceremony. By prioritizing what matters most to you on your special day, you can have a wonderful wedding without landing in deep debt.
How to Avoid Wedding Debt Altogether
If you are looking for some inspo on how to avoid wedding debt, consider these possibilities:
• Postpone the wedding. You might be able to avoid borrowing altogether by postponing the wedding to give yourself time to save the money to pay for it. Cutting unnecessary expenses might free up some money in your budget. Or earning extra money by taking on a side hustle might be a good way to add to your savings.
• Use a zero-interest credit card. Using a credit card to pay for wedding expenses might be another option. While a personal loan might offer a lower rate than a credit card, you might find credit card offers with low introductory rates — perhaps even 0% — for a limited time. If you’re confident that you can pay the card off in full before the introductory rate ends, this could be an attractive option.
• Ask your family to contribute. Asking parents for money might not be the most appealing option, but it might be a worthwhile consideration. Even though the average age of newlywed couples is rising, which might mean more couples are established financially before they marry, it’s still common for the couple to have help paying for the wedding.
• Elope. If your priorities are saving for a down payment on a house or paying off college debt, maybe you are the kind of person who would be comfortable eloping or having a city hall ceremony and Champagne with just a few of your nearest and dearest. That can definitely be a way to avoid debt from financing a wedding.
The Takeaway
Your wedding is a special day, but it can be a very expensive one. Think carefully about how to budget for and finance your wedding, which can often cost five figures. Some ideas are saving the money, asking loved ones to contribute, using vendor payment plans, and taking out a personal loan.
Think twice before turning to high-interest credit cards. Consider a SoFi personal loan instead. SoFi offers competitive fixed rates and same-day funding. See your rate in minutes.
FAQ
What’s the best way to pay for a wedding?
There is no one best way to pay for a wedding. Your personal finances and the kind of wedding you are having will play a role in deciding what works best. By saving up for a wedding or asking for help financing it, however, you may be able to avoid some or all of the interest charges you’ll encounter if you take out a loan or use a credit card.
How far in advance should we start saving for our wedding?
A wise way to figure out when to start saving is to calculate how much your wedding will cost, subtract how much relatives might contribute, and then divide that sum by how much you can save every month. So if you want to raise $10,000 and you and your partner can put aside $500 a month, then it would take 20 months to accumulate the funds needed.
Is it common for parents to pay for weddings today?
It is less common than in the past, but many parents do pay for weddings or at least make a contribution to the cost. Since the age at which people marry is rising, it’s become more common for the couple to have the financial means to pay their own way.
How can we ask for money instead of gifts?
You can put the word out tactfully among friends and family, or use a wedding website that clearly shows your registry preference is cash vs. gifts. Zola, Honeyfund, The Knot, and Joy are among the options you may find. Compare fees and features to find the best fit.
Where should I keep a wedding fund?
If you’re saving money towards a wedding, it’s wise to keep it in a high-yield savings account, where it’s safe, accessible, and earning interest.
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