New! Eligible SoFi members can invest in upcoming IPOs before they’re traded on the public market—only in the SoFi app.* Learn more

Should You Sign a Cohabitation Agreement With Your Partner?

June 22, 2021 · 4 minute read

We’re here to help! First and foremost, SoFi Learn strives to be a beneficial resource to you as you navigate your financial journey. Read more We develop content that covers a variety of financial topics. Sometimes, that content may include information about products, features, or services that SoFi does not provide. We aim to break down complicated concepts, loop you in on the latest trends, and keep you up-to-date on the stuff you can use to help get your money right. Read less

Should You Sign a Cohabitation Agreement With Your Partner?

If you’re one of the many people living with a romantic partner but are not married, you might want to consider creating a cohabitation agreement.

While you may not be married, sharing a space with a partner is still an important life milestone, and one that comes with its own financial risks and complications.

A cohabitation agreement is designed to protect your legal interests and ensure that you and your significant other are on the same page about how living together will work and what would happen if you split up.

Here are some key things to know about cohabitation agreements, and why you and your partner may want to consider getting one.

What is a Cohabitation Agreement?

Also known as living together agreement, non-marital contract, or “no-nup”, a cohabitation agreement is a legally binding contract signed by two people who live together or are planning to move into the same home.

Like a prenup or postnup agreement, a cohabitation agreement is designed to address the variety of personal and financial issues you and your partner may face in the event of an emergency or a breakup, such as who will retain ownership of property acquired before the relationship started and who will keep property purchased together.

This formal agreement not only protects assets that you bring into the relationship, but can also be a way to ensure clarity during your relationship and help you and your partner start talking about money.

Your cohabitation agreement might, for example, detail how living expenses will be divided or whether your money will be kept separate, fully combined, or partially combined.

A cohabitation agreement can also include health care directives and address issues involving your children or children from previous relationships.

Who Should Get a Cohabitation Agreement?

People who are older, and therefore tend to have more assets and more complex financial lives, may be more likely to benefit from the protection provided by a cohabitation agreement than those who are younger and just starting out.

However, any couple can benefit from a cohabitation agreement because your lives automatically become financially intertwined when you move in together.

When you live with someone, you will likely both be responsible for paying the rent or mortgage/taxes and for paying any bills, such as utility bills. And, both of your names may be on the lease or the mortgage.

Plus, you’ll both be counting on this as a place to live. You also may join other aspects of your lives, such as buying furniture together, getting a pet together, or having children together.

A cohabitation agreement can spell out how you will share responsibilities during the time you are living together. It can also help you in the event that you decide to part ways and need to determine who gets what. It can be easier to discuss and agree on these issues when you’re in love than during a potentially difficult separation.

How Do I Get A Cohabitation Agreement?

Because cohabitation agreements are legal contracts, it can be a good idea for each partner to get an attorney to help negotiate and draft the agreement. Getting legal help ensures that the contract will be enforceable and that each party knows his or her rights.

If you’ve already discussed and agreed on most of the parameters, hiring a lawyer to draft the document shouldn’t be all that costly (and can save you a great deal of money if a dispute arises down the line).

If you’d prefer not to hire a lawyer, you can find free templates for cohabitation agreements online. You can also write your own contract, but you may want to keep in mind that this may make it less likely the agreement would be legally enforceable. The contract can still be useful, however, if you’re both willing to abide by it.

Regardless of how you choose to create your agreement, here are some things you may want to consider including in your cohabitation agreement:

•  Whether one or both names will be on the lease.

•  How rent will be divided.

•  Whether owned property will have both names on the deed and who will be responsible for paying the mortgage.

•  Who will pay bills, utilities, insurance, and other household expenses.

•  Whether you will keep finances completely separate or create a joint account.

•  How shared purchases, such as furniture, will be made.

•  Who will remain in the home in the event of a breakup and how the other partner would be compensated.

•  What property is considered separate and what property is considered joint and will be divided in the event of a breakup.

•  Who will assume responsibility for any pets if a breakup occurs.

•  Who is responsible for debts incurred by the couple during cohabitation.

•  Who is responsible for debts incurred prior to cohabitation

•  Whether a higher-earning partner will be responsible for paying any support to the other partner after a breakup.

•  Whether or not the agreement will remain in effect if you get married.

•  What happens to shared property if either party passes away.

If you have children and/or are planning on having children together while cohabitating but not married, there may be additional issues you will want to address in your agreement. In this case, getting legal advice can be a wise idea due to the added complexity of your situation.

Once the agreement is written, each partner will need to sign it and keep a signed copy for themselves. It can also be a good idea to have your signatures notarized. While notarization won’t guarantee that a court will find your agreement legal, it will make it easier to prove that both of you signed and agreed to it if you ever have to go to court.

The Takeaway

When you move in with a romantic partner, you will likely be sharing more than a place to live but also expenses and other financial interests.

A cohabitation (or living together) agreement protects the assets you acquired before living together and also specifies how assets and debt acquired during cohabitation will be shared.

A cohabitation agreement can protect your rights and also help you and your partner communicate about big issues, such as how you will divide up the rent and other household expenses and purchases, and whether you will keep your finances separate or open up a joint account.

If you decide to merge at least some of your money, you may want to consider opening up a SoFi Money® joint cash management account. With SoFi Money you and your significant other can earn competitive interest, save, and spend all one place. And, you’ll both have equal access and control over the account.

Make sharing expenses with your sweetie simple with SoFi Money.


SoFi Money®
SoFi Money is a cash management account, which is a brokerage product, offered by SoFi Securities LLC, member FINRA / SIPC .
Neither SoFi nor its affiliates is a bank. SoFi Money Debit Card issued by The Bancorp Bank. SoFi has partnered with Allpoint to provide consumers with ATM access at any of the 55,000+ ATMs within the Allpoint network. Consumers will not be charged a fee when using an in-network ATM, however, third party fees incurred when using out-of-network ATMs are not subject to reimbursement. SoFi’s ATM policies are subject to change at our discretion at any time.
Financial Tips & Strategies: The tips provided on this website are of a general nature and do not take into account your specific objectives, financial situation, and needs. You should always consider their appropriateness given your own circumstances.
SOMN19077

All your finances.
All in one app.

SoFi QR code, Download now, scan this with your phone’s camera

All your finances.
All in one app.

App Store rating

SoFi iOS App, Download on the App Store
SoFi Android App, Get it on Google Play

TLS 1.2 Encrypted
Equal Housing Lender