How to Save for Your Dream Wedding
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Getting married can be a pricey proposition, with the average wedding in the U.S. now running $36,000. If you don’t have access to a large stockpile of cash, you may think you’ll never be able to afford the kind of wedding you envision. But that’s not necessarily the case. The key is to start budgeting and saving well ahead of the big day.
Whether you long for a fairy tale wedding or you prefer something more scaled back, there are ways to save for your dream day that will ensure you have the magical moment you’ve always wanted without having to start off your marriage in debt.
Key Points
• Deciding the type of wedding you want and setting a budget will help you determine how much you need to save.
• Open a dedicated savings account so you can start putting money aside for the big day. Consider getting a wedding loan.
• Make a list of your wedding day must-haves, and determine what you can cut down on in the meantime.
• Consider DIY options and getting a second-hand wedding dress.
• Comparison shop to get the best deal for the venue, but don’t attempt to save on things like food and a professional photographer.
Set a Budget
Do you want a big, lavish wedding worthy of the royals? A destination wedding? Or maybe something more intimate with just a few friends and family? There are different levels of spending when it comes to weddings, and deciding what is most important to you can help you determine how much you’ll need to save. A wedding cost calculator can also be a useful tool as you begin considering your budget.
Is the venue a priority? The number of people? The food? The DJ (or band)? It’s smart to start by making a list and getting a solid estimate of the costs for each of your need-to-haves and your want-to-haves. It’s also wise to leave a little wiggle room for unexpected wedding costs. Little things, such as the marriage license, dress or suit alterations, and even insurance costs, can start to eat into your budget pretty quickly.
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Start a Savings Plan
Before you’ve locked in the date, you and your partner can start a savings plan. Some couples open a separate bank account and set up automatic monthly transfers to that account to build their wedding fund. When savings are automated, you often don’t notice the missing funds. And by picking an account with a competitive interest rate, your money can make money while you continue to plan and save.
If you’re thinking about financing part of your wedding, you’ll want to start investigating your options, which can range from credit cards to personal loans (which typically have lower rates than credit cards), early on and weighing the pros and cons of taking on debt.
Put the Wedding First
Sure, you may want to go on vacation, eat at fancy restaurants, and buy those new clothes, but you’ll be further from your goal. Instead of spending on those luxuries now, cutting back and putting that money into your shared dream wedding account can help you get to your savings goal quicker.
There are also some simple ways to cut back that won’t make you feel deprived. For example, you can take local day trips or vacations in your state instead of traveling far. Eating out just once a month and cooking at home more can cut costs. You could even get swanky and hold a cocktail hour with friends at your house instead of going to happy hour. Your new bank account will thank you.
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Do It Yourself
One way to keep wedding costs down is to plan the majority of the wedding yourself. If you already have experience managing projects, then this should be within the realm of your abilities. Researching the typical steps and fees associated with weddings before making any concrete decisions can be helpful, and you might also want to research budgeting tips for weddings. If that feels daunting, keep in mind that the average starting rate for a full-service wedding planner in the US is $3,000.
And though there are advantages to using a planner (they already have a contact list of professionals and know their rates, saving you a lot of time and energy), the downside is that you could be getting a one-size-fits-all experience instead of the personalized ceremony and party you want.
Comparison Shop
Just like other big expenses, getting more than one quote for each service you need can help you find the best price point to fit your needs and wants. Does your preferred venue charge a premium for a wedding but a lower price for a party? You may want to consider negotiating the price. Calling multiple DJs and catering services can help you ensure you are not overpaying. New York City is going to have very different rates than Asheville, North Carolina, for example. This might even be a factor in deciding when to have your wedding, too. For a better idea of how much costs can vary, you can check out this comparison of wedding costs by state.
You can save a ton of money by doing away with an expensive venue altogether and looking at free or inexpensive locations, such as parks, gardens, and beaches.
And if you’re willing to hold your celebration on a weekday or off-season, you’re likely to find some additional savings. For example, you can pick Friday instead of Saturday, or organize a fall or winter event to help lower your costs.
Reassess the Dress
Maybe your dream wedding includes a Vera Wang gown, but your bank account can’t swing that. Consider shopping for a vintage dress and having it altered. Or if you want a more modern look, you don’t necessarily have to buy brand new — wedding dresses are usually only worn once and then either hang in the back of a closet or get sold or donated. Resellers often offer beautiful dresses at a fraction of the initial cost.
Consider this: Wedding dresses less than three years old are usually sold for half their original price. And that Vera Wang might not be out of reach after all if you buy it used. Designer brands can sell for 40% to 80% of their original cost.
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Where Not to Cut Costs
While you might not have much of an appetite on your big day, your guests likely will, so it’s a good idea not to scrimp on the food. It doesn’t have to be a five-star, multicourse meal, but if you want to create a memorable experience for all, it’s smart to offer quality food that doesn’t leave anyone grumbling about “wedding food.”
And what good is a dream wedding if you have bad or no photos to remember it by? A good photographer can capture all the special moments of you and your guests. These are photos that you will cherish, frame and place on your dresser, and send to your family, so avoid costs here. Although the average fee of a wedding photographer ranges from $2,500 to $4,000, it could be the best decision you make for your special day.
The Takeaway
Saving for your dream wedding might seem impossible, but it’s within your grasp if you’re willing to put in the time and effort. By cutting a few everyday costs and making automatic transfers into a high-yield savings account every month, you and your soon-to-be spouse will be able to slowly but surely build your wedding fund.
You can also find ways to trim wedding costs while staying true to your vision for the special day. If you find you’ll still need to rely on some type of financing to pay for your big day, be sure to consider all your options to find the least expensive one.
Think twice before turning to high-interest credit cards. Consider a SoFi personal loan instead. SoFi offers competitive fixed rates and same-day funding. See your rate in minutes.
FAQ
How much should I spend on a wedding?
A good place to start is calculating what you can afford and adding a 10%–15% contingency to cover any unexpected costs.
When should I start saving?
Ideally, you should start saving for a wedding as soon as you get engaged, or even sooner if you’re planning to get engaged in the near future.
How do I start saving for my wedding?
Set your maximum budget and calculate the monthly amount you can realistically save. Review your spending and identify areas where you can cut down, such as unused subscriptions, eating out, or frequent vacations. It’s also a good idea to open a high-interest savings account.
What are the best ways to cut wedding costs?
Look at off-peak times/seasons for cheaper rates, such as weekdays, Sundays, winter, or early spring. Ask friends and family to get involved by making decorations. Review the guest list to cut down on numbers, look for cheaper, unconventional venues, and get multiple quotes for catering and dining options. You can also avoid smaller costs by skipping favors, buying a second-hand wedding dress, and sending digital invites.
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